Faith Arisen

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“…She is MINE.” I stood stunned. THAT moment—the force of His words, His tone, His expression, His unapologetic lack of deference to polite societal vanilla norms—is forever branded on my soul. I’d never heard Him say those words to anyone. I’ve never heard anyone say those words. Not about me. Even when someone spoke those words about another, it never sounded like THAT. His fierce, unwavering conviction and open Claim of me was absolute. An irrevocable Law that anyone in His orbit must understand, accept, and Honor. For months, His stoic logic and reason have been moving some of the most fundamental tectonic plates of me. These words weren’t analytical. These words didn’t speak to my mind. They bypassed the analytical and struck the fault lines of my soul.  They called to my lioness. In that moment, she heard and saw the Primal Man roar His inherent Dominance and Authority over me, and His primal Claim set off a seismic shift that began with her instinctive and visceral surr...
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Tell Me "No"

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Floggers, crops, whips, rope...heady, sexy, yummy toys of kink.  The showmanship, the Pain, the obvious position of Power and Authority to submission are tangible, bold opportunities to share intimate experiences with one another, especially those in D/s dynamics.  Yet, often a simple, reasonable, deftly placed "No" lands much deeper and last much longer than a night's pretty bruises or vicious lashes.  In fact an occasional denial (preferably accompanied with a why) is essential to a healthy Power Exchange relationship.

A "No" in a sea of "Yes" demonstrates that He listens.

A "No" because He wants that Privilege with me shows He still desires me.

A "No" draws a Boundary that reassures me.

A "No" to keep me safe reminds me how much He values His property.

A "No" to make me uncomfortable allows me to please and amuse His Sadism.

A "No" once again establishes His Control.

A "No" gives me the chance to obey and serve my Owner.

A "No" may piss me off, but my submission to His Will reinforces His Authority in my life.

A "No" is a slight tug on my collar that reminds me I'm Owned and who Leads.

I don't want to be cushioned from being denied something.  I want to relish the moment and fully understand the weight behind it.  Let it leave its mark firmly on my mind and heart.  His "No" is an intimate opportunity to bring us closer and reinforce our Power Exchange like nothing else.
~DominaKat

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