In Tatters

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I knelt at His feet in the utter mess I’d made. My struggle to succeed was stark. No one had ever seen me so disheveled…in such embarrassing circumstances. As He cleaned me up for the second time two minutes, I looked up to meet His steady gaze and tried to gauge his reaction. Disgust at another disastrous, completely unimpressive act of service? Frustrated at my inability to get it together? Sadistically amused at another ridiculous unglamorous predicament I’d once again found myself in? I knew he was taking in every fucking minute detail of the wreck before Him and squirreling it away in the vault of His mind, but what did He feel? His stoic expression offered me no hint. Without comment He stood firm in front of me. Fuckin unwavering. He hadn’t walked away. He hadn’t stepped back. I swear He may have even leaned in. As soon as I’d semi-collected myself, I began my third attempt even as I tried in vain to push the remaining proof of my ineptitude out of view, hoping it would simply
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DominaKat's Lifestyle Classes I What I Teach & Bio

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Updated | 05.20.23

CLASS LIST

The 12 Goals of S&M: Foundations for Scenecrafting | Class Write Up

Fail Fast, Fail Often, Fail Forward: Normalizing (the Reality of) Failure as a Part of Growth in the Lifestyle | Class Write Up - Coming Soon!
Note | Session can be tailored toward a focus of BDSM, Authority Transfer, or Leather Community if desired.

The 9 Service Languages of Authority Transfer Relationships & Dynamics
  • Intro - 90m or Intensive - 3hrs | Class Write Up
  • Day Workshop - 6 hrs | Includes additional guided self-reflection, group discussions, & self-assessment workbook
  • Know Your Service Boundaries: Lessons from the Trenches of a Service Whore (for BOTH sides of the /) | Class Write Up
The Ally~Advocate~Warrior Series
  • Session 1 | The Ally~Advocate~Warrior Journey for Marginalized Communities within Kink & Leather | Class Write Up
  • Session 2 | Ally~Advocate~Warrior Tactics for Individuals, Organizers, and Groups in Leather & Kink | Class Write Up
  • Follow On/Up | Ally~Advocate~Warrior Facilitated Discussion/Roundtable: Reflections on Your Journey | This 60-90m session can follow Session1 or 2 (or both) to help attendees explore their individual challenges and successes in their or their organization's AAW Journey.
  • Day Workshop - 6-8 hrs | Includes guided self-reflection time, facilitated group discussions, as well as action-mapping workbook, exercises, and group brainstorming sessions.
  • Con Hospitality: Creating a Welcoming Experiences | Pre-Conference Event Staff Training | Class Write Up
  • PRIVATE SESSIONS | Any of the A~A~W classes can be delivered via PRIVATE session(s) to organizational boards, event teams, etc. as part of improving Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion efforts. An organizational assessment can also be included.  Contact DominaKat to discuss further details as well as your specific needs and desired outcomes.

FACILITATED DISCUSSION/ROUNDTABLE

NOTES | Session descriptions available upon request.  Depending on the host event/org, I often select a co-host to reinforce inclusion and facilitate a broader perspective.

S&M Topics | 201-Level Peer Discussions
  • The Whys of S&M
  • The Pain & Pleasure of Mental & Emotional S&M Play
  • The Wickedness of Close Quarters S&M
  • Panel Discussion | Scenecraft Secrets w/Sadists in a Fishbowl
  • S & M & Sex! Ohhhhh My!!!
  • The Object of My Desire: The Mental & Emotional of Objectification
  • All the Harmless But Sadistic Things
M/s or /s-Centered Topics
  • The Mystery of the Missing Heat in M/s | For BIG & little letters | Co-Host: MalikaSG
  • /s Journey Foundations | Personalities & Archetypes 
  • /s Journey Foundations | /s Motivations
  • /s Journey Foundations | Ethics
  • /s Journey Foundations | Healthy Boundaries
  • /s Journey Foundations | Responsible Submission
  • /s Journey Foundations | Self Preservation & Care
  • Map your /s Journey | Goal Setting & Growth

LIFESTYLE PRESENTER EXPERIENCE

While I have spent much of my career in various roles related to adult education and instructional technology, below are the previous Lifestyle-Centered Groups/Conferences I have presented for/spoken at both virtually & in-person: 

LIFESTYLE BIO | long

DominaKat—an avid BDSM blogger and advocate since 2010—continues to be inspired by the divine intersection of Spiritual connection, deep authentic BDSM, and primal hedonistic sex. She currently identifies as a right-leaning S&M switch and as unowned property in Power Exchange circles. She has been active in the NYC Lifestyle Community since 2017.

In 2018 DominaKat became the Co-Lead for NYC slave Munches/Meetings, a sacred space for those who identify as slave/property to come together in a safe setting to explore, enhance, and deepen their slave journeys. NYCsM Circles are topic-focused discussions, specifically tailored to drive purposeful, meaningful, POSITIVE growth in a slave’s journey.

DominaKat is also the Co-Founder & Co-Lead of S&M.NYC where she has brought together Sadists and Masochists for in-depth discussions since 20019. Unsatisfied with 101 sessions and technical skills-focused trainings in the community, she sought to elevate the conversation of S&M through small group, topic-focused meetings with tailored discussion questions that nurture participants to share their nuanced approaches to S&M play.

As a lifetime BIPOC Ally/Advocate/Co-Conspirator she has blended this passion with her Lifestyle Community involvement by actively supporting efforts to create safe, welcoming kink and Leather spaces for the BIPOC Community.  In December 2019, she enthusiastically entered the Leather Lifestyle as an Associate Member of ONYX Pearls NY-NE, where she has served on the Executive Operations, Road Captain, and Marketing Committees. In addition she was a charter member of The Leather Solidarity Collective (LSC) and Project Manager for LSC’s Events & UPRISE! Conference from Jan 2021 - Apr 2023. She is also the Founder of the Ally to Advocate to Warrior Project, dedicated to encouraging intentional and thoughtful improvement of allyship and advocacy in the Lifestyle.

In 2022, DominaKat launched several classes including The 9 Service Languages of Authority Transfer Relationships & Dynamics and The 12 Goals of S&M Scenes. She has presented at/for SPLF 2023, MsC Worldwide 2022, The Leather Solidarity Collective, UPRISE! 2022, MsC 2022, TES Fest 2022, SCK Events, ONYX Pearls NY-Northeast, S&M.NYC, and NYC slave Meetings.

REFERENCES

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