In Tatters

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I knelt at His feet in the utter mess I’d made. My struggle to succeed was stark. No one had ever seen me so disheveled…in such embarrassing circumstances. As He cleaned me up for the second time two minutes, I looked up to meet His steady gaze and tried to gauge his reaction. Disgust at another disastrous, completely unimpressive act of service? Frustrated at my inability to get it together? Sadistically amused at another ridiculous unglamorous predicament I’d once again found myself in? I knew he was taking in every fucking minute detail of the wreck before Him and squirreling it away in the vault of His mind, but what did He feel? His stoic expression offered me no hint. Without comment He stood firm in front of me. Fuckin unwavering. He hadn’t walked away. He hadn’t stepped back. I swear He may have even leaned in. As soon as I’d semi-collected myself, I began my third attempt even as I tried in vain to push the remaining proof of my ineptitude out of view, hoping it would simply
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The Second - Often Missed - Part to Unconditional Love

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I caught a post a few months ago that brought up Unconditional Love as it relates to various kinky dynamics.  It was almost a side note to writer's bigger relationship challenge, but since reading the piece, I've gone back again again in my mind to the idea of Unconditional Love.  What keeps nagging at me is the part everyone skipped over in their haste to debate if that kind of love even existed.

Yes, I believe some people do experience Unconditional Love toward their partner.  For better or worse, I've been one of them a time or two.  Not everyone feels love that way, and that's okay.  Love comes in many different forms, and while Unconditional Love is a beautiful thing, it can be exhausting and heartbreaking as well.

However, there's an important second part to Unconditional Love that is often left unsaid, gone unseen, or flat out ignored.

Unconditional Love does NOT equal Unconditional Relationship.

Those are two extremely different things, and I'd argue that Unconditional Relationships are what doesn't exist, except in a non-consensual culture.  But let's not get sidetracked.

No where is it written that if you love someone unconditionally you'll receive it in return, nor is it written that Unconditional Love requires you to stay in miserable circumstances simply to prove your love's unconditionality.  A million factors can impact the boundaries and viability of even the best, most loving dynamic.  We may love each other unconditionally, but that doesn't mean we are guaranteed to have a relationship on terms we can live with.  Sometimes the terms just aren't good enough for an "us" to exist no matter how deep, strong, or unconditional the love we share may be.

Centuries are filled with stories, poems, movies, etc featuring that very scenario for a reason, yet somehow we always fail to highlight the second part - the reality and practicality of Unconditional Love that doesn't result in Happily Ever After.  Just like other kinds of love, sometimes goodbye is the only answer the Unconditional kind finds too.
~DominaKat

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