Reverence of The Marks & Symbols of Ownership

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I spoke of Faith. Now…I’ll kneel to Reverence. Our first date. I stood calmly in His bedroom. Still. Waiting. A lioness’ instinctive understanding short-circuited my usual primal sexual aggression. I knew this man before I knew Him. Though desire and need raged through my veins, my lioness lowered her head in acquiescence to a Power she had known before time began and been searching for this entire lifetime. I waited. Utterly defenseless. To see how He would move. To see what He would want of me. To see which direction He would Lead us. He shifted behind me in the dim light. His first touch. A bold unmistakable Claim. With a deliberate slowness that seemed to last eternity, His fingers dug into my biceps as His teeth sank into my tender flesh where neck meets shoulder. My body gave into His strength. My mind let go of logic. My heart and soul gratefully surrendered to His Demand. I will always feel the echoes of the Marks He gave me in that moment. That was only the beginning. With ...
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The Second - Often Missed - Part to Unconditional Love

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I caught a post a few months ago that brought up Unconditional Love as it relates to various kinky dynamics.  It was almost a side note to writer's bigger relationship challenge, but since reading the piece, I've gone back again again in my mind to the idea of Unconditional Love.  What keeps nagging at me is the part everyone skipped over in their haste to debate if that kind of love even existed.

Yes, I believe some people do experience Unconditional Love toward their partner.  For better or worse, I've been one of them a time or two.  Not everyone feels love that way, and that's okay.  Love comes in many different forms, and while Unconditional Love is a beautiful thing, it can be exhausting and heartbreaking as well.

However, there's an important second part to Unconditional Love that is often left unsaid, gone unseen, or flat out ignored.

Unconditional Love does NOT equal Unconditional Relationship.

Those are two extremely different things, and I'd argue that Unconditional Relationships are what doesn't exist, except in a non-consensual culture.  But let's not get sidetracked.

No where is it written that if you love someone unconditionally you'll receive it in return, nor is it written that Unconditional Love requires you to stay in miserable circumstances simply to prove your love's unconditionality.  A million factors can impact the boundaries and viability of even the best, most loving dynamic.  We may love each other unconditionally, but that doesn't mean we are guaranteed to have a relationship on terms we can live with.  Sometimes the terms just aren't good enough for an "us" to exist no matter how deep, strong, or unconditional the love we share may be.

Centuries are filled with stories, poems, movies, etc featuring that very scenario for a reason, yet somehow we always fail to highlight the second part - the reality and practicality of Unconditional Love that doesn't result in Happily Ever After.  Just like other kinds of love, sometimes goodbye is the only answer the Unconditional kind finds too.
~DominaKat

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