In Tatters

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I knelt at His feet in the utter mess I’d made. My struggle to succeed was stark. No one had ever seen me so disheveled…in such embarrassing circumstances. As He cleaned me up for the second time two minutes, I looked up to meet His steady gaze and tried to gauge his reaction. Disgust at another disastrous, completely unimpressive act of service? Frustrated at my inability to get it together? Sadistically amused at another ridiculous unglamorous predicament I’d once again found myself in? I knew he was taking in every fucking minute detail of the wreck before Him and squirreling it away in the vault of His mind, but what did He feel? His stoic expression offered me no hint. Without comment He stood firm in front of me. Fuckin unwavering. He hadn’t walked away. He hadn’t stepped back. I swear He may have even leaned in. As soon as I’d semi-collected myself, I began my third attempt even as I tried in vain to push the remaining proof of my ineptitude out of view, hoping it would simply
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CLASS WRITE UP | Know Your Service Boundaries (for BOTH sides of the /) | Lessons from the Trenches of a Service Whore

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Title | Know Your Service Boundaries (for BOTH sides of the /) | Lessons from the Trenches of a Service Whore
~a part of the 9 Service Languages curriculum~

Format | Lecture-Based Presentation with Slide Deck, Menti Polling & Group Discussion

Duration | ~ 90m

Target Audience | Beginner-Intermediate-Advanced in Service-Oriented Roles
  • little & BIG Letters
  • anyone in service to a partner, relationship, House, organization, event, or the Community at Large
Description | Service—a cornerstone for many who practice Authority Transfer or engage with the Community—is treated almost as social currency within the Lifestyle or even the tithe we offer our beliefs.  However, while we fully support, embrace, and champion S&M Boundaries, little is ever even whispered about Service Boundaries.  This silence is a detriment to the individuals involved as well as to the overall Community.  Most of us can name at least one person who has sacrificed too much in the name of service and faced serious negative consequences that required months or even years to recover.

Instead of simply preaching service, service, SERVICE, we each need to have honest conversations with ourselves, our partners, and the groups we serve about the Service Boundaries needed to Protect both the Big Letter and little letter Property!

Whether you are a little letter or a BIG letter, serving a partner, a relationship, a Leather House, an organization, event, or the Community at large, join DominaKat—a recovering Service Whore—in exploring what Service Boundaries you may want and need in your Journey.

Note | This class is a part of DominaKat's 9 Services Languages of Authority Transfer Relationships & Engagement

Agenda |
  • About this Class
  • Breaking Up with the Idea of Sacrificing Our All
  • Requirement Standards of Service Receivers | Vetting Leadership, Mission, and Motivations
  • Moving Beyond What to How | Service Language vs Service Delivery
  • Protect the Property | Warning Signs & Safewords




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