Fire & Ice

Title  |  Know Your Service Boundaries (for BOTH sides of the /) | Lessons from the Trenches of a Service Whore ~a part of the 9 Service Languages curriculum~ Format  | Lecture-Based Presentation with Slide Deck, Menti Polling & Group Discussion Duration  | ~ 90m Target Audience  | Beginner-Intermediate-Advanced in Service-Oriented Roles little & BIG Letters anyone in service to a partner, relationship, House, organization, event, or the Community at Large Description  | Service—a cornerstone for many who practice Authority Transfer or engage with the Community—is treated almost as social currency within the Lifestyle or even the tithe we offer our beliefs.  However, while we fully support, embrace, and champion S&M Boundaries, little is ever even whispered about Service Boundaries.  This silence is a detriment to the individuals involved as well as to the overall Community.  Most of us can name at least one person who has sacrificed too much in the name of service and face

If I've learned anything the last year, it's how some folks will choose to run their mouth without a lick of common sense or truth, so I prefer to embrace as much transparency as appropriate in an effort to minimize any self-service spin/narrative others may attempt.  However, I do recognize that they're gonna talk shit regardless.  LOL I had hoped Spring would simply allow me the opportunity to decrease my hours in service to the community a bit, but unfortunately matters have taken a different turn.  Despite my FIERCE belief in the mission and efforts of The Leather Solidarity Collective (LSC) and the incredible success LSC had at our historic collaboration with South Plains LeatherFest, it is with profound sadness that I discontinued my service and resigned yesterday (04.07.23) from LSC due to a conflict of interest not of my making. This has been a difficult and painful decision.  Loyalty, commitment, and advocating for the BIPOC Community are a few of my core values an

Intro to 9 Service Languages Session Service Languages/Dialects Handout External Resources/Books Link The Journey from Ally to Advocate to Warrior for Marginalized Communities within Kink and Leather The Ally~Advocate~Warrior Journey Handout

  Title  |  Con Hospitality: Creating a Welcoming Experiences | Pre-Conference Event Staff Training Format  | Lecture-Based Presentation with Slide Deck & Interactive Team Activities - Menti Polling & JamBoard Duration  | ~ 60m Target Audience  | Beginner-Intermediate-Advanced  Event Board Members & Leadership | Producers, Co-Producers Conference Committees | Chairs, Co-Chairs Event Organizers/Staff Can also be offered to Volunteer Teams Description  | Conference teams a month before the event are a hive of activity: gathering the last of the equipment and supplies, the final coordination with the fleet of volunteers or speakers, and the last run through of the various checklists. As we juggle ALL the details, it’s easy to lose sight of our primary objective—a seamless event that leaves everyone feeling like they come home to their chosen family. Let’s take an hour to pause and refocus as a team on the basics and nuances needed to create that one-of-a-kind welcome home fe

Title  |  Ally~Advocate~Warrior Tactics for Individuals, Organizers, and Groups in Kink & Leather Format  | Lecture-Based Presentation with Slide Deck Duration  | 90-120m (w/Q&A) Target Audience  | Beginner-Intermediate-Advanced  Individuals in the Lifestyle Event Organizers  Conference Committees  Non-Profit/Organizational Boards Whether you are passionate about Social Justice and Equity for the BIPOC Community, Women's Rights, LGBTQA++ Rights, Transgender Rights, Mental Health, Neurodiversity, Learning Disabilities, Physical Disabilities, Body Positivity, Ageism to name a few...this class is for YOU. Description  | While some steps toward progress have been made in pockets of the community, the unfortunate reality is that few move beyond a blanket invitation to everyone with the claim to be "safe".  Being an Ally, Advocate, or Warrior is MUCH more than being intolerant of ~isms and ~phobias or inviting new speakers with a diverse identity to teach or posting a &

So long ago...      Acceptance in the finality.      Seeds planted in fertile soil.     Hyper-compressed changes and maturity that forever altered what would be. I look back.  The girl that was somehow became the woman that is.  Nothing was planned nor expected, yet each phase flowed into the next with the ebb and flow of pain and joy and sorrow and lust and tears and love of life.   All those choices made to not remain the same.  Lessons learned.  Truths discovered.  Irretractable evolution wrought. So much and so little remain, and everything between then and now is impossible to capture—except in the prism of reality that is today. The moonlight filters through a million memories, sparking their vivid playback.  The pieces of a complicated puzzle that none have witnessed the full assembly have become unexplainable mysteries abandoned for the moment that is now.  In a life so full of twists and turns and here and theres, being known and unknown co-exist in the prism's reflections

I've been home less than 24 hours. While the long drive home yesterday gave me time to contemplate, I'm still chewing on the unexpected direction of my 1st MsC experience. I'd ASSUMED those four days in Maryland would re-inspire my desire for an M-type in my life and the softer side of me that few folks see. Instead, every aspect of the Master/slave Conference reinforced my current solo journey and my fierce Lioness.  LOL Don't jump to conclusions. Yeah...I know most of you did!!! My solo journey is NOT a bad thing at ALL! In fact I will be taking up that POV over the next year.  Okay, more dick in my life absolutely WOULD be appreciated, but that's a different topic...kinda.  The truth is being unowned property the last few years has been nothing short of fucking PHENOMENAL! I've grown exponentially in my knowledge and understanding of self as well as the Lifestyle. I've evolved my surrender beyond a singular person to include Community Service and my own